Why you should go to counselling?
It happens to everyone that we go through a difficult time in life, and we all need a little help, a little support, a little listening. But many of us have developed inhibitions: “I’m not going to see a psychologist because I’m not crazy.”, “I can handle it on my own.”, “others cannot find out that I have problems”. These thoughts are what keep us from asking for help.
There is a misconception that only very serious problems need or can be treated by a psychologist. That’s not true at all. You can also apply if there is a minor blockage in your life or if you simply feel that things have “come together”. Everyone’s biggest problem is what’s going on in their own lives. After all, we’re living our own experiences intensively, and they can affect us. As we experience a situation, we think about it and develop our feelings.
Once we notice that something is difficult in our life, we often want to solve it on our own. We don’t want to burden others with our problems, and we think that if everyone else can do it, we should be able to do it ourselves. On the one hand, others are not in a better or a much different situation. On the other hand, we are free to admit that there are problems in our lives.
When we realize that we need help, who do we turn to? Of course, our parents and our friends can also help a lot. A psychologist is different in that you have no connection in any other field. The psychologist reflects who you are and looks at your problems from an external perspective. He’s not involved, so he’s not affected by his emotions or advocacy. He is not biased towards you or your loved ones. The nature of the relationship is different. During your time with him, you can only deal with yourself, he won’t talk about his life or any subject that interests him. Only your current situation, your problems will be in focus. The other thing that is really important is trust. The psychologist under no circumstances reveals your secrets, laughs at you, or mocks you. (He must breach confidentiality and report to the appropriate authorities if you pose a direct threat to yourself or to any other person.)
What happens on these occasions? Mostly through verbal communication (to be complemented by symbolic relaxation techniques) you reveal your inner feelings, your fears. You’re consciously reviewing what problems you’re having, where they might be coming from, what solutions you can implement. With the help of a trusting relationship and attention your self-confidence will also be strengthened, you will see your own functioning, you will experience that you have a lot of positive qualities and energy.
By participating in a support process you can experience your strengths and become able to deal more effectively with the difficulties that arise in your life with the help of the methods you have experienced and practiced after the process has been completed.